Advice... Venting...

So this is my vent about people and their vents. No, it's not that I get irritated with people letting their feelings out, and venting the things that are bothering them, that is completely understandable. What irks me is when people are wanting advice on a situation, they are venting their anger and frustrations, and hoping people on the outside can give them some sort of help... yet when they do get advice it is completely ignored. Why bother asking for advice in the first place?

Seriously, if you just want to shout and be angry, without anyone offering their advice... SAY SO! Otherwise you are wasting everyones time, as well as their feelings. I am a very emotional based person, always taking on the feelings of others. When a friend is sad, or going through a rough situation, I am sad right along with them. Also, I am there to offer support, give my take on their situation and speak from an outsiders perspective.

People seem to want to talk about their problems, but never seem to want to be proactive in solving their problems. Do they just thrive off the stress and drama? I know personally, I am a much happier person when my life is drama free and smooth. It's never fun to be in a tough spot emotionally, financially, or physically. Others don't like seeing it either and want to help. When advice is just thrown out the window and the next week the same situation is brought up in a new scenario, I get angry. In my mind why should I take the time to care about this person, offer support and guidance, for it just to be brushed off again? It's not worth it. They aren't willing to listen. To listen would mean to take action and DO something to prevent the situation from happening repeatedly... but doing something means CHANGE. People are afraid of change.

Let me ask you this... if you had a boyfriend, husband, someone who was causing you mental stress or harm in any kind of capacity... would you let them continue treating you in the same manner time and time again? Or... would you do something to remove yourself from said situation? If you had a longtime friend who only wanted to be friends when it was convenient for them... constantly causing you heartache knowing you must not matter enough to keep in touch with... would you continue being their friend?

I don't like being a doormat, so that said, I would remove myself from both situations. Nowhere am I saying you need to just shut the door and not even try to mend these relationships... but, if they even need to be mended, something is obviously broken.

Can you last in a relationship without trust? I know I wouldn't be able to! Constantly questioning your partner's every move... wondering what they are really up to as they tell you a lie to cover it up. Here's the thing about lies... the truth will ALWAYS come out!! When it does, it hurts much more than if you were to just be upfront and honest, whether it caused an issue or not. Because, now the person you lied to has to deal with the initial issue along with the fact that you LIED to them. What's the point in lying in the first place unless you have something to hide?

I can go on forever with this subject, so I will leave it at that. My point in all of this is if you are seeking advice from people, take it. If you have no intention of doing anything about your situation but just want to gripe and have a pity party, say it in the beginning so I don't go wasting my time trying to help you out.